THE WORLD'S SCARIEST KIDS

The scariest kids I've ever met are not creatures from the dark. Nor do they resemble monsters with horrible horns and sharp fangs. Neither they do look as creepy as the boy, Damien  in Omen or the spookiest kiddie-character with the the very pale complexion topped with the  infamous "over-the-face" hairdo, Sadako in the Ring trilogy.

Those scary kids I'm mentioning about are in fact, do look normal and more often than not, seem to be looking adorable. But watch out, in a few moments,  their behavior change and may freak you out.  Honestly, I think these kids scare the hell out of me. Mostly because, back home in my country, children don't behave this way. And parenting is opposed to the way American parents do it.

I grew up having the utmost respect for our parents and deem  their authority with high esteem.  My siblings and I fear my father the most  because he was the "disciplinarian." But the kind of fear we were used to is not something dreadful that we don't see the love and affection he always gives. We love our father so much but we were also so scared of him especially when we knew we had gotten ourselves into something that my parents wouldn't approve. Actually, he is very a very gentle, prudent man.

As you all know, children in our tiny islands-nation are reconditioned that parents are there to guide us and not to punish us, so if we do commit mistakes, they are there to rectify and lead us to what is right.  The way parents  should be. Hence, children should never talk back to their parents. Not even on one condition nor situation. Sassing is never allowed. It's kind of an unspoken commandment that deserves  punishment. We don't believe in the "so-called sacred privilege of freedom of expression" when it comes to parenting.

As our nation is deeply-rooted in Christianity, the parents are to be "highly regarded" as authorities in the family. Even older people outside our families should be esteemed with great respect. Because our culture fosters "family relationships" so much even up to adulthood, we even have extended families living in one home. We believe that "family is always there to help you" and "no one else will catch you from a fall but a family."

So when I came to America, I was in the "greatest shock of my life". I began my sojourn here working as a nanny. For  over 4 years, I witnessed uncontrollable misbehavior of kids born of  rich American couples and not-so-rich families. Some of the children are tame-able but most of them are just plain brats their mothers are too blind to see and too ignorant to realize that one of these days, these children they raise could grow up to be monstrous adults.

But more often than not, I think generally, most American kids are the scariest kids in the world. Not only my nanny-experience could attest to this but mostly because I have been able to witness these scenarios. Pretty much, the parents are to be blamed. They don't know that discipline starts at home and discipline is not giving the kids too much "freedom" to express their opinions. However, these parents probably have twisted the idea of "freedom" so they make a lot of parenting mistakes turning their children as horrible as scary beasts. Truth to say, the parents are the real "ogres" breeding and rearing potential chimeras.

So why do I think parents are the "real monstrous characters" that turn their offsprings as infernal  as hell?

Take a look at several of these points;

1) Parents teach their children to act like an adult  early in life yet they expect them to follow authority---parents themselves. How could children be expected to obey Mom's rules if they think they are also like "adults having the same authority?"

2) Parents teach them to be assertive; meaning discipline involves a child is encouraged to talk  to his parents face-to-face and express his resentment and frustrations freely. Assertion doesn't guarantee better discipline. It creates confusion determining who is the "authority".

3) Parents always teach their kids that whatever they are doing that is not against their will is a "great job". "You did a great job", is sometimes a dangerous thing to say because it promotes mediocrity. The child, aware that he did a "great job" would just cease to pursue improvement because he knew he already did a "great job".

4) Parents teach their children that these children don't need anyone but their own (kids) strength to attain their dreams. All they have to do is to believe and do everything they could to reach these aspirations. Trusting on your own strength just leads to frustration. Everyone has his own limitations.

5) Parents teach to their children that it's "okay to talk back" to them  because that's the way children "assert themselves" as they hold  the "freedom to express themselves" . Children become "imps and bitches" who sass, snap and bitch slap " at their own parents.

6) Parents apologize to their children even if they don't need to. One mother  I was employed for said "I'm sorry" to her 3 year old son after her son flared up  into a tantrum.

7) Parents often tell their kids that kids deserve respect but forget to emphasize and implement a rule of "respect" to parents that they really  deserve. One 12 year old boy yelled by demanding  his parents to give him respect. "I need respect here. Can you please respect me?"

I think the world has turned upside down. Today's  American kids  need respect and parents don't. Blame the parents. They never know how to exact respect from their very own children.

8) Parents are fine with the choices of clothing their children wear. In fact they shop for them the kind of clothes they wear. 10 -year old girls wear apparel that make them look like "little sluts." Look around and you'll see 9 year old girls in skimpy attires making them look "easy preys for pervs."

9) Part of the blame goes to school which cannot impose a rule on the limitations of clothing. Why is this happening? The kids themselves were "trained" to think that it's "freedom of expression."

10) Parents coddle their children so much even when they make mistakes, BEGGING them to behave. Parents are not supposed to beg for kids to behave and mollycoddle them as a way to make them behave.

This is turn make these brats think  "kids are in charge" and  in their "own immature minds", can manipulate their parents.

11) Kids are taught that they can dial 911 whenever their parents scold them. It gives them the idea that "you can actually scare your parents away".
This way, kids are given the idea that they have the authority over their parents.

12) Children call older people by their names. Even way much older. They address friends of their parents by their names; hence connoting a similar "level of wisdom and authority." This was the first shocker of my life here in the US.

My culture vehemently discourage calling older people by their names. We have terms for people depending upon the position of their hierarchy in society. Older sister is to be called "Ate" and older brother is to be called "Kuya". Friends of parents or older neighbors are to be called "Tito" for man and "Tita" for women.

13) Parents and educational superiors condone "premarital" sex among kids by advocating "safe sex" through the use of condoms. American schools give them freely away.  They teach kids that "sex" is the norm of the modern society. That's why America is saturated with news of kids having sex as early as 11 and even within the premises of the school.

14) Even schools are divided about what to teach; whether the theory of evolution or creation by God. Worse, the school authorities are also  befuddled. So what do you expect from these children?  Kids who may grow up never knowing the truth or being too perplexed to care about what is really the truth.

15) The parents expect their children to be "cleaned up" by the schoolteachers  whenever they pick them up after school. However, it's sad to say that these parents will still rule, not the school. If there is an attempt to discipline the child in school, the parents blame the teachers and threaten to fire them. They presumably think, there is nothing wrong with their kids thus the schools don't have any right to discipline them. Unfortunately, it's kind of depressing. Most teachers give up their jobs due to these pressure caused by parents, and the school's inability to protect the teachers.

16) Even the society and the government meddle with parenting.The national administration even proposed a law that will allow "teenagers" to have abortion without their parents' consent. How much a mistake could be fixed with another mistake?

17) One TV show entitled, "Life and Style" now defunct,  featured a teenybopping "writer" who had his  "idiotic" book published. The book's title "How to Raise A Teenager". It was supposedly a "guide for parents" written by a 17 year old kid, teaching parents on how to raise their teenagers.

Holy cow! A teenager preaching the "correct ways" to parents on how to discipline him and other adolescents his age?  "You must be kidding me!"

But it wasn't a joke. One mother in the audience even raised her hand to ask the juvenile author about methods of chastisement.

This is damn sickening. The world is turning upside down. Well, at least here in America. Where a whole nation of the most horrible little rascals can make their parents obey them and urge the government to give them importance even at the expense of morality. Someday, America won't be just be turning upside down,  in reverse, but will be chuck out of the planet Earth. All just because of the "scariest kids"...in the world.

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[Lori Laws]

Hi Bingkee,

Glad you found my blog. 1st let me tell you that you are very beautiful. I love your blog. Yes, as I read this post, I can confirm that a part of God's plan for you is to do this blog! As I was reading, I kept on saying, "Preach It!" We are so blessed here in America, and more people have to come to this realization. I am adding you to my favorite blogs, and I'll come back often

Blessings to you and Praise God!

Lori

[Bingkee]

Thanks for complimenting me. You are such a very blessed and beautiful woman too. I know now that this was God telling me to do. Thanks also for linking me. God bless u!

[ieo]

ello bing,

what can I say? you said it loud and clear. true enough! I'll recommend your blog to my friends if you don't mind. Hope this blog of yours will help a lot of blinded parents not only americans to see the brighter side of discipline and the truths behind it., Definitely no to corporal punishment!

Indeed truly an awakening blog.More power and God bless!

ieo

[Dinah]

was just here to drop some EC but was caught up on your posts about these kids and the authority they have over their parents. yeah, once you have kids of your own, better he knows who is the boss, but at the same time, showering him with all the love there is so he understands that the discipline is for his own good!

[fedhz]

Wow.. I never thought this is really happening.. hmm.. I'm absolutely speechless. I will have to reread and digest everything that you said. I'm still in shock.

[manoy]

ohhh. that's scary. very nice post. thanks

[Bill]

I agree bingkee we try and encourage our son to do a good job and have respect for older people. I do say he does a good job sometimes because i dont want him to think all i have is bad things to say to him. I make sure he cleans his room and takes out the trash and sets the table when we eat. He gets straight As at school and i tell him that is great. I dont understand parents that let their children run all over them but i guess that is just me. Take care my friend.

[Mel Avila Alarilla]

The problem of America began when they wandered away from the norms established by their founding fathers which are: love for God and country. Americans became awash with wealth, pleasure and power that they began to think of themselves as the masters of their own lives and destinies. They began to wander away from Biblical precepts especially in the rearing of God fearing children. They have been so obsessed with freedoms and rights that they turned themselves into veritable ogres with little or no spiritual strength. Let us all pray for the spiritual revival of America. God can still remedy the situation for this beloved nation of God who was once a land flowing with milk and honey. Thanks for the inspired post. God bless you always.

[JOY BALL]

Wow, this is true bingkee. Sometimes, i watch a reality tv show about nanny. And, I see this behaviors. It's really scary. I'm afraid to have my own kids. LOL!

[rachy]

i really enjoy your perspective on life here in the US. you see clearly what we take for granted.

but your perspective is true. and, as i've mentioned before, your perspective has a lot in common with other cultures (such as Peru, the one i'm most familiar with, although we did notice a few brats even there).

my thoughts are that here in the US there we have become too material (buying clothes, TVs, cars, etc.), and parents are less focused on their family and particularly their kids. and many parents don't make their faith part of family life (except for baptisms, weddings, funerals). but where people are poorer, the value of the family is greater, and there is less of the bad behaviour that you mention. so, as Lori says, keep preaching the truth!

[elmot]

you got everything right ate bingks...everything right on the spot - the red mark in the middle.

everything becomes a cycle unfortunately, and the real monsters are those who made them. children are molded by parents to sport the wrong behaviors against themselves and others, that when these kids grow up, the only thing and way that they know how to discipline and take care of their kids-to-be were the same style that they grew up with.

everything becomes a tragic carousel for them...

now ate bingks, you sound like a psychologist and counselor, ehehhe

[Deji D]

If you want to see scary kids, go to grocery stores and malls. You'll see so many unruly kids screaming and running about while their parents just stand there looking helpless. It's a sight to behold.